Guest Post/Virtual Tour ~ Book & Kindle Fire Giveaway with Laura Carroll

 

Pronatalism & The Motherhood Decision
 
The decision to become parents is one of the biggest decisions we make in life.  For many people, the decision does not come without its uncertainties. Here’s a story of a woman, Nina Jacinto, who struggling with her uncertainly about becoming a mother. From her article, “Loving So Much It Hurts: Why I’m Not Sure I Can Be a Mom:”
 
It’s the “‘loving so much it hurts’ that makes me want to scream and run away from the land of mamas. Caring for someone with all your heart that way requires a tremendous amount of trust in oneself, and even more vulnerability. Opening up our heart to love, and letting in everything that comes with it — happiness, sadness, fear, intimacy, risk, compassion sounds… terrifying. I struggle with this already as a daughter, as a person in a committed romantic relationship. I feel this way as a best friend. How can I take this on as a mother? The insecure and scared person inside me who has experienced and remains afraid of loss says, What if I can’t handle it?”
 
If she decides she can’t handle it, that Should Be OK. She seems to be beating herself up for fearing she is not “ready” or does not have what it takes to be a mom.
 
Pronatalism, what the book The Baby Matrix explores in depth, includes the idea that a) there comes a time when we should all be ready to become parents, and b) there’s a strong connection between the ability to give birth and the ability to parent.  Not only is a) not true, b) is a myth.
 
If she comes to the conclusion that motherhood is not something she has the ability to take on, she need not feel badly about this. If we lived in a society that did not unquestionably believe that parenthood should be the central focus of our adult lives, she would not have to be hard on herself for this choice.
 
But she does say that she thinks she wants to be a mom one day. So what could help her get beyond her anxieties and feel she has the abilities she needs to raise kids well? Living in a society that treats parenthood as a “privileged” right, where everyone is required to get solid education about parenthood before they become parents, including having to think through why they want to become parents (because it is not everyone’s biological destiny, as the The Baby Matrix also dissects), learning the skill sets that parenting requires, assessing whether they have those skill sets and what skills they need to acquire before becoming parents.
Like any other “job” parenting requires certain aptitudes, certain “components of capability.” What if our society required adult parenthood programs to help people really examine whether parenthood is right for them, and if it is, help them prepare for it? If we did, people like Ms. Jacinto would have a place to go to explore her feelings, and get what she needs in order for her to be able to confidently say, “I can handle it,” or decide that parenthood is not right for her, and make this decision without self-judgment, or judgment from society.
 

Paperback: 186 pages
Publisher: LiveTrue Books (May 17, 2012)
ISBN-10: 0615642993
Buy: Amazon, Kindle, IndieBound, The Book Depository

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In the movie The Matrix, the character Morpheus offers two pills to Neo–if he takes the blue pill, he will go on with life as he has before, believing what he has always believed. If he takes the red pill, he will find out what the "matrix" really is, and many of his earlier beliefs will be shattered. When it comes to taking a hard look at a specific set of beliefs about parenthood and reproduction that has driven our society for generations, The Baby Matrix is the red pill.

We commonly think our desire to have children boils down to our biological wiring, but author Laura Carroll says it's much more than that. Unlike other books on parenthood, The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World takes a serious look at powerful social and cultural influences that drive the desire for the parenthood experience, and lays out why we need to be very aware of these influences to make the most informed decisions about parenthood.

The Baby Matrix looks at long-held beliefs about parenthood and reproduction, and unravels why we believe what we believe. It lays out:

-the historical origins of beliefs about parenthood and reproduction
-why many of these beliefs no longer work for society or were never true in the first place
-why we continue to believe them anyway
-the prices society pays as a result

The Baby Matrix shows us how we got here, brings to light what is true, which includes knowing about the powerful influence of "pronatalism," and explains why society can no longer afford to leave pronatalism unquestioned.

"This is not a book about convincing people not to have children," says Carroll. "I want people to be very aware of the long-held social and cultural pressures, and be able to free themselves from those pressures when making parenthood choices. This will result in more people making the best decisions for themselves, will foster a society in which those who are best suited to become parents are the ones who have children and one that knows what it means to bring a child into the world today."

This book will make you examine your own intentions and beliefs, will rile you, and might just change your mind. Whether you are already a parent, want to become a parent, are still making up your mind, or know you don't want children, you'll never think about parenthood in the same way.

The Baby Matrix is a must-read for anyone interested in psychology, sociology, anthropology, parenting issues, environmentalism, and social justice. But most of all, it's for anyone, parent or not, who reveres the truth and wants the best for themselves, their families, and our world.

 

 

Laura Carroll is the author of The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World. She is also the author of Families of Two: Interviews With Happily Married Couples Without Children by Choice and Finding Fulfillment From the Inside Out. In addition to writing nonfiction books, Laura has worked as a business and litigation psychology consultant, and used her expertise in behavioral sciences, psychology, and communications to advise business, legal, and nonprofit professionals on their communications strategies and goals. She has appeared on a variety of television shows, including Good Morning America and The Early Show, and been a guest on many radio talk shows to discuss social science topics. She reviews nonfiction books and more at LiveTrue Books. She lives in San Francisco.

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Thanks to the author I have one (1) copy of The Baby Matrix to give away.

Giveaway open to residents of
Giveaway ends on August 8th

Winner will have 48 hours from the time of notification to confirm their win or another winner will be chosen.

 

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Visit Laura at the rest of her tour stops ~ 

Friday, July 27
Book Review at Geek Girl Reviews

Monday, August 6
Guest Blogging at Books Books the Magical Fruit

Tuesday, August 7
Book Review at The Paperback Pursuer

Wednesday, August 8
Guest Blogging at I Am a Reader Not a Writer

Thursday, August 9
Interview at Examiner

Friday, August 10
Guest Blogging at The Bunny’s Review

Monday, August 13
Guest Blogging at Literarily Speaking

Tuesday, August 14
Book Review at Journey Through the TBR Pile

Wednesday, August 15
Guest Blogging at Alive on the Shelves

Thursday, August 16
Interview at Paperback Writer

Friday, August 17
Interview at Cafe of Dreams

Monday, August 20
Guest Blogging at Giving N Sharing

Tuesday, August 21
Guest Blogging at The Book Faery Reviews

Wednesday, August 22
Interview at The Book Connection

Thursday, August 23
Interview at Digital Journal

Friday, August 24
Interview at SheWrites

Tuesday, September 4
Book Feature at Mary’s Cup of Tea

Wednesday, September 5
Book Review at Books Books and More Books

Thursday, September 6
Guest Blogging at The Paperback Pursuer

Thursday, September 7
Guest Blogging at Broowaha

Monday, September 10
Book Feature at The Road to Here

Tuesday, September 11
Book Feature at From the TBR Pile

Wednesday, September 12
Interview at The Writer’s Life

Thursday, September 13
Guest Blogging at The Writer’s Life

Friday, September 14
Guest Blogging at Writing Daze

Monday, September 17
Book Feature at Celtic Lady’s Reviews

Tuesday, September 18
Book Feature at Reader Girls

Wednesday, September 19
Interview at Divine Caroline

Thursday, September 20
Guest Blogging at Coffee and a Keyboard

Friday, September 21
Book Review at Waiting on Sunday to Drown

Monday, September 24
Interview at American Chronicle

Friday, September 28
Book Review at Examiner

 

 

 

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