Guest Post/Virtual Tour ~ Transform: The Secret To Unlocking The Perfect You by Dede Barbanti

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The Missing Link in the Diet Industry

It’s unfortunate, but the diet industry has tricked people into believing that they have to continuously consume their breakthrough product, pill, shake, boxed meals or follow their program if they want to lose weight. Most popular diet programs or products give you that glimmer of hope that maybe this time this one thing will be different and you’ll finally get the results you so desperately seek; but most of those programs will completely destroy your metabolism. They severely limit your calories by replacing nutritious meals with shakes or by changing your appetite with some type of diet pill. Or they provide you with sodium-and preservative-filled prepackaged meals to make it easier for you to stay on track, but they cost you hundreds or thousands of dollars in the long run. And they never show you how to tackle the real problems that cause the merry-go-round.

The diet industry is a multibillion-dollar industry for a reason, my friends: everyone is looking for the easy way out. But Trojan horses can only provide you with a temporary fix, and they are designed to keep

you on them forever. Just think about it. If you are replacing any nutritious meal with shakes that

claim to have as many vitamins and nutrients as a well-balanced meal, what happens when you stop taking

those two shakes a day and start eating like a normal human being again? You will just gain the weight

back—and then return to the shakes because you were duped into believing they are the only thing that

actually works and can give you results.

As a single mom that has always had to make every minute and penny count, this makes me furious!

None of these things provide you with the tools you need for real, lasting results. Just take a moment and

think. Why would the “diet industry” want to give you the answer to permanent results? Why? If they did,

they would lose residual revenue. They want you to have to stay on their programs or keep going back; this is why they only give you half of the answers. I firmly believe that if you bring balance to three key areas in your life, you will transform your body, life, relationships, and most of all; it will change you from within.  When you realize that you can do anything you set your mind to, the sky’s the limit! I am in my fabulous forties, a single mother of three great kids, and a fitness and lifestyle coach, but life has not always been the glitz and glam that it is now. (Note the slight hint of sarcasm?)

To sum up my life before as quickly as possible, I was on top of the world, with a successful fifteen-year career as a professional choreographer and competitive dancer. In my late twenties I got married, got pregnant, and left dance entirely. I ended up getting a regular nine-to-five in real estate, and with tremendous success in sales eventually became a licensed broker. During this same time, I had two more children and got divorced, and the real estate market crashed. I found myself very overweight, eating and drinking a lot, totally broke, and alone. So yes, there is a lot that I am not going into detail over because that could literally take forever and would be a novel in itself!

So what happened to me? At some point during all of this, I totally lost who I was, my passion for life, and my passion for myself. I had always been active and fit, and I had always known what I wanted. I always had direction, but that person had disappeared. What I was facing in the mirror was an overweight, empty version of my former self. Now, don’t get me wrong. My kids are my passion and what I live for, but as you all know, it’s very easy to lose who you are when all you do is give to everyone around you. How could I raise my children to be happy, confident, independent, successful individuals when I wasn’t modeling that in my own life? After some serious reflection, I had to accept where I had gone wrong.

I am a firm believer that the best teachers, coaches, and mentors are the ones that have been there themselves. How can one truly guide someone else if they haven’t experienced the same struggles? Nobody is perfect. I’m just a regular mom who has been through many of the same obstacles you have faced and come out on the other side. This doesn’t mean my life is perfect or that my way is the only way. I’m just very resilient, and what I did worked for me. It has changed the lives of countless people I’ve had the pleasure of working with, too.

It’s unfortunate that most people want to put their precious time and energy into a quick fix. They are willing to believe in any magic concoction or program with a good pitch. It saddens me to see that people are so quick to waste hard-earned time and money on this stuff, but are not willing to slow down and focus inward. I believe that diets, pills, weight loss shakes, and other Band-Aid types of superficial weight-loss programs and products are pure crapola! Sure, you can starve and malnourish yourself by living on shakes. Of course you can waste your hard-earned money on sodium-and preservative-filled prepackaged meals. But what happens when you are ready to go back to normal life? You can’t live on shakes and prepackaged foods forever! Not to mention the diets that claim you will lose a certain amount of weight in thirty, sixty, or ninety days. What happens when those thirty, sixty, or ninety days are over? Ask yourself why you are always bouncing from diet to diet or product to product. Why? Because they only provide you with a temporary fix. None of these things provide you with the tools you need for real, lasting results, and like I said before, it all starts on the inside. The majority of people who overeat are overweight because they are using food as a reaction; their obesity is a byproduct of their external and internal circumstances. Overeating, weight gain, lack of motivation to exercise, and lack of consistency and commitment are the symptoms of not dealing with the core barriers and bringing balance to your mind, body and inner self.

The missing link in the diet industry is that they don’t help you identify your core barriers. They don’t help you identify what needs to be adjusted internally so you have the solid foundation to achieve want you want externally. By keeping you tied to their products, they prevent you from achieving and maintaining your goals. They have no reason to teach you how to change your negative patterns! That would take money out of their pockets. The truth is, I can teach you all day long how to eat correctly. I can show you all the right exercises for burning fat and building muscle. But in the end, if you don’t deal with whatever is causing your self-sabotaging habits and blocking your logic, vision, and commitment, you will not be able to build a solid foundation that can maintain your results. You will only find yourself on that endless, frustrating carousel that you and many others have been on time and time again. You and you alone have the power to achieve your weight-loss and fitness goals. You have everything you need to achieve the life balance and body you have dreamed of. You do not need to starve yourself, pollute yourself with diet pills or drugs, or spend thousands of dollars or hours at the gym. You have all of the tools within yourself and in your home to get the body you want, but first you have to build that  foundation. Weight loss my friends begins on the inside, not the other way around. 

Let’s face it—things go wrong, plans change, people will let you down; but it’s what you do and the choices you make that determine your happiness. So before you try to blast me with excuses like “I have kids,” “There just isn’t enough time in a day,” “My husband/ex doesn’t help me,” “I work too much,” or “I’m too tired, and this is why I have to buy into these band aid diet products;” don’t even bother. Been there, done that. I know every excuse in the book. I am a firm believer that if you follow your passion, you will find your life’s purpose. When you want something bad enough, you will not let anything or anyone stand in your way. So you can sit there and make excuse after excuse, but the truth is,

“If you want it bad enough, you will do whatever it takes. Only you have the power to create the body and life of your own design. But the first step is to take that first step.”

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Publication Date: February 24, 2016
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Finally, a book that will provide you with the answers that change your body and your life! TRANSFORM really is the SECRET TO UNLOCKING THE PERFECT YOU. Once weighing over 200 pounds, Fitness and lifestyle expert Dede Barbanti not only gives you the tools to achieve your weight-loss goals, but helps you dig deep to fix the core issues that keep you from lasting success and your true potential.

This is not your traditional weight-loss book. Most diet books focus on the outside by changing your eating and exercise routines,but they fail to find the root cause of your bad habits: what, why, and where they all started. These band-aid treatments never treat the problem, only the symptom, and most people find themselves back at square one, frustrated and defeated. Dede’s no-holds-barred approach gets your booty into gear by tackling the real issues of your weight loss merry-go-round; so you can stop the madness and unlock the perfect you.

You can continue reading all of those other diet and lifestyle books that ultimately keep you repeating the same old story and never seems to get you anywhere, or you can get real with yourself and finally bring about the changes that you have always wanted…permanently!

post-divider leftdedeDede Barbanti is a renowned fitness & lifestyle coach, certified soul memory discovery facilitator, author, motivational speaker and single mother of three. Once weighing over 200 pounds, Dede has dedicated her life to developing innovative methods that have literally changed the face of weight loss, fitness, dieting and lifestyle!

Through the creation of her first format Boogie Box (BBX) and the “Un-Diet” nutrition and weight-loss program; Dede lost over 70 pounds in less than 6 months and has since helped countless people from all over the world. Since forming BBX, Dede has released two groundbreaking workout DVD’s “Boogie Box LIVE” & “BBX Hardcore.”

Her groundbreaking techniques and work have been featured on shows such as: Dr. Oz, Shark Tank, Fitceleb, OnAir, Good Day Utah, ABC, KTLA and FOX News, as well as several media productions. Dede was also named one of OC Metro Magazines “Top 20 Women In Business.”

Dede’s passion, training and experience has helped countless people from all over the USA transform their bodies and lives through her unique and “straight shooting” methods.

Pulling from her years of experience, Dede has written a complete lifestyle guide, TRANSFORM: The Secret To Unlocking The Perfect You. In it, she shares her three principles to obtaining the body and life of your own design!

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post-divider rightExcerpt ~

INTRODUCTION

Have you ever seen someone who turns heads and lights up the room just by walking in? Have you ever met someone who draws people to them magnetically? Who seems perfect in every way?

Do you find that you often compare yourself to these people? Wishing you had what they have, or looked how they look? Oh, come on, you know you’ve done it! We all have at one point or another in our lives. We have a tendency to compare ourselves with classmates and coworkers. We compare ourselves with our ex-partners or their ex-partners, our siblings, our parents, our heroes, even random people on the street! Comparing ourselves with others is something many of us do, especially when we aren’t fulfilled in our own body or life.

But no good could ever come from this, and most of the time, we’re using a very inaccurate gauge. We often look at the wrong things because somewhere along the way, we decided that people with more money or seemingly better bodies live more valuable lives. We compare ourselves to others by looking at their clothes, cars, homes, paychecks, beauty, or Instagram followers. . . but how much money you make and how many toys you have are rarely a good measure.

Outside appearance or net worth has never been a good indicator of self-worth.

You will never benefit from comparing your life to others.’ There will always be people who appear to be better off than you, who seemingly live perfect lives, but that’s because we always compare the worst of what we know about ourselves to the best that we assume about others. Trust me when I say their lives are never as perfect as your mind makes them out to be.

Comparing yourself to others puts your focus on the wrong person and lets you forget that you can control only one life—yours. Comparing yourself to others wastes precious energy you should be spending on your own life. It invites you to regret what you aren’t, rather than enjoy who you are.

It will always steal the joy and happiness within your grasp—and place it just beyond your reach. By focusing on what they have or how they look and wishing you had more of it, you are robbing yourself of your most precious gift—you! Your life!

What you are not realizing is the perfection that is you, and that you have the tools and the power to create the life and body you have always desired.

I’ve never been one to beat around the bush. I’m a straight shooter, so I’m going to give you the answer right from the get-go: the real secret to unlocking a perfect, hot new you is in finding peace and balance in every aspect of your life. Yup, I said it: your life. Not your neighbors,’ coworkers,’ the hottest celebrity, or anyone else, for that matter. Yours!

Does it mean everything in your life will be peachy keen and miraculously healed? Nope! It just means whatever the goal—whether it is to lose weight and keep it off, to stay fit, be happy, feel sexy, or make your dreams come true—everything begins and ends with having faith and harmony in your life and within yourself.

By picking up this book, you are taking a big step toward changing your body and your life forever. It is my hope that the information and exercises in these pages will bring about an amazing transformation that empowers you to realize just how incredible you are. I firmly believe that losing weight, getting fit, and living a more balanced life will transform your work and all of your relationships, and most of all, will change you from within. Because when you realize that you can do anything you set your mind to, the sky’s the limit!

I am in my fabulous forties, a single mother of three great kids, and a fitness and lifestyle coach, but life has not always been the glitz and glam that it is now. (Note the slight hint of sarcasm?) To sum up my life before as quickly as possible, I was on top of the world, with a successful fifteen-year career as a professional choreographer and competitive dancer. In my late twenties I got married, got pregnant, and left dance entirely. I ended up getting a regular nine-to-five in real estate, and with tremendous success in sales eventually became a licensed broker. During this same time, I had two more children and got divorced, and the real estate market crashed. I found myself very overweight, eating and drinking a lot, totally broke, and alone. So yes, there is a lot that I am not going into detail over because that could literally take forever and would be a novel in itself!

So what happened to me? At some point during all of this, I totally lost who I was, my passion for life, and my passion for myself. I had always been active and fit, and I had always known what I wanted. I always had direction, but that person had disappeared. What I was facing in the mirror was an overweight, empty version of my former self. Now, don’t get me wrong. My kids are my passion and what I live for, but as you all know, it’s very easy to lose who you are when all you do is give to everyone around you. How could I raise my children to be happy, confident, independent, successful individuals when I wasn’t modeling that in my own life?

After some serious reflection, I had to accept where I had gone wrong. I am a firm believer that the best teachers, coaches, and mentors are the ones that have been there themselves. How can one truly guide someone else if they haven’t experienced the same struggles? Nobody is perfect. I’m just a regular mom who has been through many of the same obstacles you have faced and come out on the other side.

This doesn’t mean my life is perfect or that my way is the only way. I’m just very resilient, and what I did worked for me. It has changed the lives of countless people I’ve had the pleasure of working with, too. My hope is that my advice will help you understand things from a different perspective and shed light where you may have gone wrong. The truth is, no one person knows it all. I continue to grow and learn. My hope is that you will as well, because I want to help you in any way I can. But let’s face it. How can someone help you lose weight if they don’t understand how it feels to be unhappy in their own skin and they haven’t lost a substantial amount of weight themselves?

How can they tell you what steps you need to take if they don’t understand the process themselves? How can they tell you to have faith and just do it if they haven’t experienced the internal and emotional struggles you deal with every day? How can they tell you how to balance your hectic family and work life if they don’t have kids and a full-time job themselves? How can they give advice about financial struggles if they haven’t experienced them? How can they tell the struggling single mom that she needs to put her health first if they don’t understand the day-to-day battles that she has to fight alone? The list can go on and on—the point being, the best person to help guide you in making positive, permanent changes is someone that has walked in your shoes and overcome those same obstacles.

Let’s face it—things go wrong, plans change, people will let you down; but it’s what you do and the choices you make that determine your happiness. So before you try to blast me with excuses like “I have kids,” “There just isn’t enough time in a day,” “My husband/ex doesn’t help me,” “I work too much,” or “I’m too tired,” don’t even bother. Been there, done that. I know every excuse in the book. I am a firm believer that if you follow your passion, you will find your life’s purpose. When you want something bad enough, you will not let anything or anyone stand in your way. So you can sit there and make excuse after excuse, but the truth is,

If you want it bad enough, you will do whatever it takes.

This book isn’t just for people that want to lose weight or get healthier. This is an overall health and lifestyle book, and it can be just as powerful for those who want to rediscover themselves, gain perspective, and find that passion in their lives. There are many so-called experts out there that will tell you what to do, as if we live in a society where everything runs perfectly in Wonderland. Umm, no. Reality check, people! I live on this planet, and I know and have experienced the difficulties and crap life throws our way. Heck, with all the stuff I have been through, I’d like to say I am quite the expert. My life is not and has never been perfect. I thank God for that, because I know that every difficulty I have encountered has taught me major lessons and helped shape the person I am today.

You don’t have to love to work out. You don’t have to love eating healthy or become some fanatic. But you do have to love yourself enough to change on the inside and exercise and eat right to take care of the outside.

My hope is for you to see your true potential and inner strength and to know that every obstacle can be a stepping stone toward changing your life for the better—forever! I want to show you that there really are no boundaries, other than those you design yourself.

I want to bring back that spark, desire, and passion about yourself. I want you to be excited about the work that goes into achieving your desires and goals, whatever they may be.

You are capable of anything and everything you set your mind to. You are capable of more than you realize and give yourself credit for. Feeling beautiful begins within, not on the outside, and unlocking the secret to the perfect you lies within my three principles.

You are the one in control of your mind, your body, and the life you want to design for yourself, right now, in this very moment! 

post-divider leftTour Schedule

Monday, February 1 – Book Feature & Tour Kick Off at The Literary Nook

Tuesday, February 2 – Guest Blogging at The Story Behind the Book

Wednesday, February 3 – Interview at The Writer’s Life

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Monday, February 8 – Interview at PUYB Virtual Book Club

Tuesday, February 9 – Book Featured at Bound 2 Escape

Wednesday, February 10 – Book Review at Alexia’s Books and Such

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Monday, February 15 – Guest Blogging at Confessions of an Eccentric Bookaholic

Tuesday, February 16 – Interview at SheWrites

Wednesday, February 17 – Guest Blogging at Carol’s Notebook

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Monday, February 22 – First Chapter Review at The Busy Mom’s Daily

Thursday, February 25 – Guest Blogging at Lori’s Reading Corner

Thursday, February 25 – Book Review at Sincerely Stacie

Friday, February 26 – Book Review at Create With Joy

 

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